I've been ill for 3 years now. It's strange how when I say that it sounds like a long time but when your life isn't moving forward then time stands still somewhat.
I've come to have a better level of acceptance of having m.e. and the way my life is as a result of it. Something that does bring up a lot of emotion is still having the feeling of not being 'believed' when I tell someone that I don't feel well or I'm really tired. When they see me looking relatively ok with some make up on it might be hard to comptehend that I actually feel unwell 24/7 because they either have never heard of m.e. or don't understand that it's a lot worse than just feeling tired.
May is m.e. awareness month, May 12th is m.e. awareness day where across many cities around the world demonstrations are held. I attended the event in Edinburgh. It was the first time that I was surrounded by other people who either had M.e. or knew someone who suffers from it. I usually would suffer a lot of anxiety being in a crowded environment. However, I actually felt quite calm knowing that it was ok that I felt too tired to stand, and like many people sat on the ground. I didn't feel like I had to act like I was 'normal' when I felt unwell.
There were speakers who shared their stories as well as music from a choir and a country band. Surrounding them were many pairs of shoes lined up to show the severely ill people who were not able to attend these events in person. Attachted to the shoes were notes telling us a bit about the person's story and how long they have been unwell.
The symbolism of the empty pairs of shoes carries a powerful message that we DO exist and we are not invisible. We are just missing for school, work, social events because we are struggling with a misunderstood illness that robs people of their lives.
This is why is it vital that there is more awareness for how severe an illness m.e. can be for a lot of people. And that more funding is needed from the government so that vital research can be done to find out more about why this illness develops and hopefully one day a way to help treat the millions of people around the world who are affected. #millionsmissing